Hello all and welcome to my blog. Where do you go when you’re looking for love? I have been to every church, club, bar, even the library and there are no men that I’m willing to spend my time with. This pass Sunday I went to church to meet the man my aunt told me had been asking about me. She forgot to mention the man was on his fourth wife and sixth kid and the youngest was three. He was older than dirt and he stomach was so big he turned sideways to pass by. Looking at him, I tried to see what other women saw but I saw nothing that would make me want to be with him. I asked my aunt what she thought I would like about him and she said he had plenty of money. I ran out of that church so fast you would have thought the devil was after me.
Now, there were a lot of men in the clubs and bars I went too. There were some cute ones, ugly ones, fat ones, skinny ones, and missing teeth ones. I just turned around and left after looking around for 15 minutes. I went to the library and just knew one would be up in there but what I found were prisoners who were on work relief. Needless to say I won’t be going to another library.
I had come to a conclusion that there were no men out there. I was not going back online because I tried that a couple of years ago. I had met a man named Bobby. He wrote a nice bio about himself and we seemed to click. We both liked the same things and I was hooked on his wordy emails and how he answered me every time. When it came to the day for us to finally meet via zoom he said he had something to tell me. I styled my hair, put on a nice outfit and was so excited I was going to finally see him face to face. Even if it was over the internet. The call came in and I answered. There was a woman there and I thought she had called me by mistake. Nope! Bobby turned out to be Barbara. I couldn’t delete my subscription fast enough and that’s all I will say on that subject.
I had given up hope and just knew I was going to be single, grow old, and be alone with a lot of pets. No cats, because I was allergic, but if I wasn’t, my house would be full of them too. I binged watched every movie ever made about characters falling in love. I would wish I was the main female character and someone would fall madly in love with me. I put in the last movie called “Titanic”. If anything, I knew it would put me to sleep and that’s why I chose it to be the last one I watched that night. As I went into my kitchen to pop the last bag of the 10 bags of popcorn I had bought just for this occasion, I heard a noise coming from my bedroom. It sounded like someone was trying to break in. I looked around my kitchen for a weapon and the only thing I saw was a rolling pin. I had to ask myself where the hell were my knives but the rolling pin would have to do. I grabbed it and found the last ounce of my courage to face the person that was trying to break into my house. I had some pretty nice things and I wasn’t going to let some low life come in here and take them.
I turned off the lights. At the time I thought that was a good idea but it wasn’t. I couldn’t see a damn thang. But that was not going to deter me. With the rolling pin in hand, I crept to my bedroom with the intent of protecting what was mine, even if that meant I was going to hurt this would be thief. Just as I raised my arm to swing at the culprit, my front door flew open with a few cops bursting in saying “Freeze! Nobody move!” I didn’t move but I sure did scream my head off.
When it was all over the cops arrested the guy who tried to break in. It turns out he was running from them and tried to get into my place to get away. I was shaking like a leaf. They asked me if it was okay if one of them stayed behind until the medics finished checking me out. I guess I must have fainted or something because when I came to, I was on my couch with one of them telling me I was going to be fine.
The one cop who stayed with me the whole time kept asking me if I was alright. I just wanted this night to be over with. I told him I was fine and that he didn’t need to stay. He said he didn’t mind. He told me his name but I guess I didn’t hear him. I taped up my window and made a mental note to call someone to come out to fix it. The cops said the city would pay for the window and door to be fixed but I wanted to do it on my own. Besides, there was paperwork that needed to be filled out and the process was going to take a few weeks to get approved. All the door needed was a hinge but it could open and close with no problem.
As I began to put my place back in order, the cop who stayed behind started helping me. I told him it was okay and that I could finish up but he said he didn’t mind helping. It was the least he could do since they broke my door. He looked at me and asked if remembered him when he came to the ER one night. I work at the Emergency Room at our main hospital here in the city. I told him I didn’t. He explained that I was his nurse that night and took good care of him. He came back a week later to thank me but I wasn’t there. Tonight, when he saw me he thought maybe his luck would change and he would get the chance to ask me out. I stood there, with a hair bonnet on my head, a raggedy house coat and my favorite bunny slippers on and this man was asking me out. I couldn’t even talk so I shook my head up and down with my mouth wide open hoping he knew I was saying yes.
We went out every night for a week. And on the seventh night of the seventh date, he kissed me and asked me to be his girl. That was two years ago and I am happily engaged to him. I write this blog to say this – finding someone is easy to some, but for others, it’s a challenge. I think it’s a challenge because we are looking and when we are looking, we are expecting, and when we expect, we are always disappointed. There is someone for everyone. Even the man my aunt tried to hook me up with had someone to love. The person who is meant just for you is out there. I ask that you be patient, be willing to step out of your comfort zone, and have faith. Love will show up when you least expect it too and when it comes, open the door to it. It may want to stay for a while.
Peace and Blessings!